Need to get more self-control?

December 29, 2017 BY: LISA

Getting control

What most people are looking for in life and diets or food is to feel in control. Nobody likes to feel out of control of an area where being in control is useful. You can jump out of a plane or fall in love and not be in control however, there are some areas where we like to know we have it sorted and I reckon eating is one of those areas.


That’s why people turn to diets as they provide boundaries and security that make people feel in control…until they don’t. That’s when people start to lose faith in themselves as ‘dieters’; instead of blaming the process, they blame the person.

If diets really worked in the long-term then we wouldn’t have the research that states: ‘Two-thirds of the people who go on a diet will put their weight back on and more so.’ This research actually concludes that dieting is a predictor of future weight gain. Yet it seems to be what people turn to in order to get control of their eating, weight and health.


Over the years of listening to people struggles with weight and compliance with diets I’ve concluded that the strict rules and guidelines are the problem not the solution.


The trouble is the solution scares people as the diet process has undermined their trust in themselves to the point where they doubt their capability for making a sensible considered decison around what they will eat.

The thing you need to ask yourself at this point is: “When I am at work or home (or both) am I capable of making decisions that lead to good outcomes? That is, can I run a home? Raise kids? Keep a job? Run a business? If the answer to any of these questions is ‘Yes’ then it seems you must be capable of making rational and considered decisions. Now it’s just a matter of using that skill, that you already have, to decide what you will eat, how much and when. Forget the rules just think about what you would like to achieve in terms of weight or health and weigh this up against the food you are considering eating.



You may have read this before from my blogs but it’s worth a reminder:


These points will be helpful in making your decision:

  • Decide when you last ate any extra foods. If it was three hours ago you may choose to say ‘No’ if it was three days ago then you might say ‘yes’.
  • Set what you think is a reasonable portion of ‘extra’ food. For example, it could be 2 squares or one row of chocolate…whatever you feel is reasonable. The definition of reasonable is the amount YOU feel happy eating AND knowing that it’s moving toward your goal. The amount that if you eat it you would still feel in control.
  • If you decide that enjoying this food now fits into your goal and what you have been doing in recent days then: Eat slowly and enjoy without guilt!


Control is not found where you think it is.


There is a couple of quotes that are relevant here:

  • Insanity is doing the same thing and expecting a different outcome.
  • ‘How’s that workin’ for ya?’ Dr Phil McGraugh


Here’s to you trying something different and getting the control you want and need.



Lisa APD


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