Imperfection Inspires Improvement

December 20, 2018 BY: LISA

Imperfect Invites Improvement.

I was talking to a client today and she was telling me about the impact that the Food Freedom Framework had on her after the initial introduction to the concept. She had been writing down her thoughts to get clarity about her usual habits and beliefs and how they were setting her up for failure, as well as experimenting with the new way of thinking about food.

In the past she would think about the week ahead and design the ‘ Perfect Week’ and what that would look like food, exercise and work wise. What would happen was that her perfect week would get interrupted by the normal happenings of life and when this happened she would break her diet rules and because the whole thing was ruined anyway would overeat on things she had set herself not to eat and not exercise at all. By thinking about her tendency to set up the perfect week she realised that she was being too hard on herself and also discovered that if you didn’t expect perfection you could actually learn from decisions or plans you weren’t happy with rather than go on another rebellion.

Often, I reckon, that setting up something too perfect and rigid can really just act as a catalyst for self-sabotage. I know for myself the expectation of achievement is quite off-putting, and actually tends to make me stop trying. We may get told about vision boards and visualisation and they are amazing if they do motivate you, but if they don’t, it’s important to understand that it’s okay and just means you need to find a different way.

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What my client found was when she relaxed the rules, to mean she didn’t have to be perfect, she naturally began to snack less and quite naturally stuck reasonably close to the plan she had made rather than rebel, because things didn’t need to be perfect. This meant that when something didn’t go according to plan, that was no big deal. The ‘plan for imperfection’ and being kinder to herself was working and it ended up she was doing more exercise and snacking less than when she was trying to be perfect.

 

When you don’t have to be perfect this allows you to be curious as to what you  have learnt rather than break all your rules in rebellion. When you rebel and learn nothing and do everything the same as you always do, you will then set yourself up for another perfect week the next week and find yourself in the same old dissatisfying place.

 

I’ve summarised this in the table below and hope it makes sense to you!

 

Imperfect invites improvement…

 

Expectation Perfect Imperfect
Mindset Irrational Rational
Thinking Rigid Curious
Progress Stagnant Improving
Outcome Rebellion Learning

 

In conclusion, if you continue to set rules and expect things to be perfect you will get the same outcome…which is usually far from perfect! Try putting a plan together and aiming for pretty good and see what the difference is.

 

Enjoy!

Lisa APD

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